I have not connected the backlight since that messes up my camera shot, but as you can see the contrast is on full. But it remains that way at every position of the pot. I have checked and the pin 3 is changing voltage from 0 to 5v easily as i change the position of the pot. But for every position the 2nd and 4th lines remain black.
But for every position the 2nd and 4th lines remain black.
Actually your display is upside down as is the display in the Adafruit tutorial until you get a little further on. I guess you already know that since you mention that the 2nd and 4th lines are blank.
Having boxes only on the first and third lines is normal, the question is really 'can you adjust how dark those boxes are'.
Your display appears to be quite normal if the pot is giving you a voltage at or near 0 on pin three. As you raise the voltage the boxes should quickly fade away giving a blank display when you near 5 volts. If your display exhibits that characteristic then everything is OK for you to proceed.
As said, your display is upside down in the picture we can see and that means that those pins on the left are NOT 1,2,3.
When you visualize the device in the correct orientation the pins are in the more or less normal location, at the upper left. Also, pin 1 is normally near the edge of the display, where his connections are, so that means that he appears to be using the correct pins.