Choosing the correct power supply for my stepper motor (and other questions)

20mA is the recommended max. 40mA is the absolute max. Current over the absolute max can degrade or permantly damage the output.

You should not be powering the A4988s (apply to Vdd) from an output pin. You can control (step, dir, enable pins) many from 1 output pin. 3 should be no problem.