Compare array from RFID reader

Here is my code so far

 #include <SoftwareSerial.h>
  #define BUFFSIZ 90
 
  //RFID parser
  char buffer_RFID[BUFFSIZ];
  char buffidx_RFID;
  char response_str[64];
 
  char command_scantag[] = {0x43,0x04,0x01,0xCD};
  char command_firmware[] = {0x10,0x03,0x00}; // Command to get firmware version
  char command_antenna[] = {0x18, 0x03, 0xFF}; 
 
  unsigned char incomingByte;
  unsigned char inByte;
  unsigned char numTags;
  unsigned char parsed_okay = 0;
  unsigned char tag_found_number;
  unsigned int bytecount = 0;
 
  SoftwareSerial mySerial(2,3); // RX, TX
 
  void setup() {
    
    parsed_okay = 0;
    Serial.begin(9600); // Start serial monitor
    mySerial.begin(9600); // Serial port for UHF RFID scanner
    Serial.println("Initialize");
    mySerial.print(command_antenna[0]);
    mySerial.print(command_antenna[1]);
    mySerial.print(command_antenna[2]);
    while(mySerial.available()) {
      inByte = mySerial.read();
      Serial.println(inByte, DEC);
    }
  }
 
 
  void loop() {
    while(Serial.available()) 
    {
      incomingByte = Serial.read(); // Read input from serial monitor
      if(incomingByte == 'r') 
      {
        Serial.println("Start read");
        mySerial.print(command_scantag[0]);
        mySerial.print(command_scantag[1]);
        mySerial.print(command_scantag[2]);
        mySerial.print(command_scantag[3]);
        parsed_okay = 0;
        bytecount = 0;
      }
    }
    while(mySerial.available()) {
      inByte = mySerial.read();
      Serial.println (inByte, HEX);
      bytecount++;
      if(bytecount == 3) {
         Serial.println(inByte,HEX); 
      
    }
    }
  }

This is using a Cottonwood RFID long range reader. I am new to programing and this is over my head. What I think should be an easy fix is not. I can get the reader to read the cards but only when I send R using the serial monitor. What do I need to change to get it to continue reading without me doing anything? Finally once it does read a tag I need it to compare it to a list of tags and if it is the same as that one to turn on an LED.

Here is what the serial monitor shows

Initialize This is when I load the serial monitor
19
3
0
0
Start read right after I send "r" with now card
44
5
0
0
0
0
Start read Right after I send "r" with a card
44
16
1
1
CE
FC
37
D
E
30
0
30
35
30
7B
28
31
B3
82
10
BE
63
6B

see attached