THX. That's the same odd place they were in the old times. Less than intuitive IMO but I should have looked there.
Only thing is about 73% of the time I do not see my avatar at the top right. It looks like an error with Safari, which (it is said) could be fixed by upgrading, which would throw me a world of pain as it appears it would involve an OSX update (not gonna happen).
Or use Firefox, which seems to work better.
But it would be my hope that someone figures out a better answer than updating the web browser.
It is conceivable that some new twist or feature is being exploited by Discord but seems more likely to be something that could be corrected to re-enfranchise users of older (not that old, srsly!) versions who may all have their own reasons to resist updating.
A later version of Safari (13.1.2) helped me, but I didn't have to go through an O/S update to get it. I think I would need that upgrade if I wanted version 14, but my Mac's too old for that to be permissible anyway.
I'll look again and around a bit, I saw some updates for a few apps but Safari was not amongst them, neither, however, was an offer for the new OS… which seemed odd. Not like they gonna figure out I don't want to be offered a new OS!