Thanks for the link to Nick Gammons tutorial.
I had two ATMEGA328-PU's that I could not get to take a bootloader until I walked through his awesome, complete, simple, thorough instructions. A simple change to his sketch, (I duplicated his signature for the ATMEGA328P-PU and changed the chip name and the last byte of the sig to 14 to match my chip) and all worked perfectly! I had been stumbling around the web for days trying different methods with no success, then TADA!
Thanks again,
Roddy