I don't seem to see buffering between the ESP32 and the relay in your breafboard setup. Usually (and preferred) an optocoupler for galvanic isolation or a transistor. I also don't see a flyback diode.
You should never connect a relay directly to any microcontroller; chances are that you have damaged your ESP32.
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