mclumos:
it connects to my phone and sending data to my phone works but when i try to send data back it is like nothing happens
am i missing something obvious?
No
I assume by Example you mean code supplied with the IDE and therefore it should be kosher. One-way traffic proves the terminal app, the pairing, the baud rate, and the Rx/Tx wiring are all OK and the right way round. It seems that about all that is left is that the Bluetooth Tx to Arduino Rx is on the right pins but a connection is bad.
I believe all Android terminal apps work the same way and I don't think the problem would be at that end.
Note the date of the last post, also the number of posts the OP made. You are not likely to get a reply. If you really have the same problem, the most likely answer is in the Arduino Rx wire.
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