yes the led is a real ir one
Are you positive? Have you checked it for operation using a digital camera as Grumpy_Mike suggested?
iam not using a phototransistor but a led to receive also
For the circuit given to work, you must use a phototransistor as a detector; using an LED as a detector is possible, but it requires strong reverse biasing, and even then its not a great detector (its really a hack). Use a proper phototransistor.
Ideally, you purchase your IR LED and phototransistor as a "matched pair"; if you can't, then you need to look at the spec sheets for the parts you are buying, and make sure that the parts will match properly (that is, the output wavelength peak of the IR LED falls within the detection bandwidth of the phototransistor).
and the ir led is not black though the other one is i donno the transparent led is showing light in a mobile phone camera
Ok - so you're saying that the transparent case LED is showing light on the mobile phone camera, but you don't see any visible light emanating from it, correct? I do know that there are transparent case IR LEDs, but most tend to have dark cases (IR transparent, though - they look almost black, sometimes a very deep purple color).
The other LED though - what is it? Is it an IR LED in such a dark case, or is it some other LED? What happens when you use it as the output LED? Do you see visible light or not? What do you see on the camera? If you don't see anything, but the camera picks up something, then it is an IR LED, too - based on your descriptions, anyhow...
Are you sure it isn't a phototransistor (I imagine one could come in such a case, though you usually see other kinds of cases); where did you get these parts, anyhow? There's a lot of unknowns here; maybe you could post some pics of what you are trying to do...
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