How do I connect differential input amp to Arduino DAC?

The other way around.

The ground can be located at the Arduino but the amp's negative input should be grounded through the capacitor, not directly connected to ground.

And... With a 100W amplifier, I'd recommend a volume-control pot, especially during the development/experimentation phase. Plus, you might want to lower the power supply voltage to the amp and/or put a resistor in series with the speaker to keep the power down to reasonable levels. You don't really want to get a 100W "pop" when you connect something or when you power-on, etc.