How to control external voltage via PWM

Thanks for the schematic update. I'm now waiting for parts I've ordered. I ordered some RFP3006LE MOSFETs and some digipots (thanks, Steve!).
With respect to my ground question, I think I figured that out. I wondered how the MOSFET worked without any ground connection. But really, the ground reference is probably found through the variable output and the load connected to ground. As long as it works...