What must I do to to get two Arduinos to access the same I2C device? If necessary I have enough free I/O pins to create a traffic cop function so the Arduinos don't interrupt each other.
Is it necessary to have one Arduino as a master and the other as a slave? I don't need them to communicate to each other.
You could use some kind of device reservation system. Use two pins on the Arduinos which you cross-connect to each other. The Arduino that wants access to the device looks for the reservation input pin. If it's LOW it puts it's reservation output pin to HIGH and check the input pin again. If it's still LOW it can use the I2C bus. Else it sets it's output pin LOW and waits for a random (!) time (some ms) to try the same again.
When one of the Arduinos is not actively using the I2C it's SDA and SCL pins must be configured as inputs. Keep in mind to install the pull-ups (3k3) only once for the whole bus.
I2C is smart enough not to transmit if the bus is in use. It's called bus arbitration and the losing master will kick back an error to the calling application.
Still a good idea to employ a negotiation system if you don't want to leave things to chance.