Generally when you can't connect to the Arduino to upload, it means that you need to change the COM port in the software. Go to Tools > Serial Port, and try another COM port.
If that doesn't fix it then, what was the last thing you uploaded to it?
thnx but i mean that i can upload my sketch to the board.
the problem is that i cant connect to the board in my J2ME phone application over bluetooth.
I used it first in emulator then i tried it with a nokia 3500 and E65.
but i dont think that the problem is the phone type. now i will try a samsung E250 but it will be very helpfull if you or someone else will write some stuff to this topic :-/