I2C RTC & OLED loop breaks

would you agree that the attached wiring for relay with external power is correct?

I think that's right. See Terry's information on wiring those relay modules. There's wiring information near the bottom of the page.

http://arduino-info.wikispaces.com/Relay-Board-How-To

Another page on isolation and noise
https://arduino-info.wikispaces.com/RelayIsolation