im working on a home automated system and the webserver is acting weird

How about posting all of your code (can't make much out of the various parts). How are you powering the relays (if powered directly from the arduino they may be causing the board to reset)? Below is very simple server code you can try and check if pin 5 goes hi/low from the web page using a multimeter.

//zoomkat 4-1-12
//simple button GET for servo and pin 5
//for use with IDE 1.0
//open serial monitor to see what the arduino receives
//use the \ slash to escape the " in the html, or use ' instead of " 
//address will look like http://192.168.1.102:84 when submited
//for use with W5100 based ethernet shields

#include <SPI.h>
#include <Ethernet.h>

#include <Servo.h> 
Servo myservo;  // create servo object to control a servo 

byte mac[] = { 0xDE, 0xAD, 0xBE, 0xEF, 0xFE, 0xED }; //physical mac address
byte ip[] = { 192, 168, 1, 102 }; // ip in lan
byte gateway[] = { 192, 168, 1, 1 }; // internet access via router
byte subnet[] = { 255, 255, 255, 0 }; //subnet mask
EthernetServer server(84); //server port

String readString; 

//////////////////////

void setup(){

  pinMode(5, OUTPUT); //pin selected to control
  //start Ethernet
  Ethernet.begin(mac, ip, gateway, gateway, subnet);
  server.begin();

  myservo.write(90); //set initial servo position if desired
  myservo.attach(7);  //the pin for the servo control
  //enable serial data print 
  Serial.begin(9600); 
  Serial.println("server servo/pin 5 test 1.0"); // so I can keep track of what is loaded
}

void loop(){
  // Create a client connection
  EthernetClient client = server.available();
  if (client) {
    while (client.connected()) {
      if (client.available()) {
        char c = client.read();

        //read char by char HTTP request
        if (readString.length() < 100) {

          //store characters to string 
          readString += c; 
          //Serial.print(c);
        } 

        //if HTTP request has ended
        if (c == '\n') {

          ///////////////
          Serial.println(readString); //print to serial monitor for debuging 

          client.println("HTTP/1.1 200 OK"); //send new page
          client.println("Content-Type: text/html");
          client.println();

          client.println("<HTML>");
          client.println("<HEAD>");
          client.println("<TITLE>Arduino GET test page</TITLE>");
          client.println("</HEAD>");
          client.println("<BODY>");

          client.println("<H1>Zoomkat's simple Arduino button</H1>");
          
          client.println("<a href=\"/?on\">ON</a>"); 
          client.println("<a href=\"/?off\">OFF</a>"); 

          client.println("</BODY>");
          client.println("</HTML>");
 
          delay(1);
          //stopping client
          client.stop();

          ///////////////////// control arduino pin
          if(readString.indexOf("on") >0)//checks for on
          {
            myservo.write(40);
            digitalWrite(5, HIGH);    // set pin 5 high
            Serial.println("Led On");
          }
          if(readString.indexOf("off") >0)//checks for off
          {
            myservo.write(140);
            digitalWrite(5, LOW);    // set pin 5 low
            Serial.println("Led Off");
          }
          //clearing string for next read
          readString="";

        }
      }
    }
  }
}