Hi Mike
thanks for the speedy reply
I checked everyting twice
The vendor replied almost instantly (thanks Pieter from Floris.cc) and he suggested i use Standard LCD 16x2 + extras [white on blue] : ID 181 : $9.95 : Adafruit Industries, Unique & fun DIY electronics and kits
this scheme 
let's see if there's still some life in it left, i'll keep you posted 
meh still smoke on pin VDD 