Thank you both for answering, I read a lot from you guys over the different posts for other projects as well.. 
I think what I'll do is I'll get a different transistor and end this saga, Got to run some other projects, never got as perplexed as I am with this item.
i understand the characteristics end at 100ma, i should look more carefully at stuff like this in the future..
I was wondering though, if i take 1k resistor as johnwasser said on this current NPN transistor and put it for the base, i should be at 4.7ma.. wouldn't that be fine? i know i cant see the rest of the data but isn't the behaviour should be proportional to the rest?
The worst that can happen is that i go past the recommended power specs and burn something, like the led/transistor or even the pin? i am doing with the atmeg328 on a board (no arduino)
I am afraid wrong calculations, maybe even in the slightest could cause a fire.. for example I got a few projects i did with leds and el wires in cabinets etc, i am afraid that a too close contact between "open air" boards with electronics and wood or whatever material can catch up a fire.. so a bit afraid of connecting power from wall socket (12v etc) when not at home.. (even if it is turned off actually)