I wrote another post in which I asked this question, but not well, and I mixed it with a lot of others. I didn't get a lot of detailed responses. So, I'll try again, but keep it focused.
I'm building a house and want to automate the lighting, but I'm having a hard time finding switches that do what I think I want. All of the lighting automation switches I can find are RF, which makes sense if you're remodeling and don't want to take down the walls, but this is new construction so I have the opportunity to wire them.
I've also watched a bit of SuperHouseTV, which takes the approach of making all of the house wiring a "home run" system, and then controlling everything with relays from a circuit box, and replacing all of the switches with custom-built controllers operated via ethernet. That seems expensive and would leave me working with high voltage relays. If I'm going to build custom switches and relays, I figure it will be easier to put the relays in the switches and use a standard house wiring plan, anyway.
I'd rather not build custom switches at all, but I can't seem to find any off the shelf switches wired for remote control.
Any suggestion? Other options I haven't considered? Should I just go RF, since that seems to be where the hardware is?