Please modify your post and use the code button </> so your code looks like this and is easy to copy to a text editor. See How to use the Forum. I bet your code does not have smileys 
This Simple Stepper Code may get you started.
How can you expect anything to happen on pin 4 with this code?
digitalWrite(13, HIGH);Â // Turns ON Relay on digital pin 4
If you want a responsive program don't use delay() anywhere. Have a look at how millis() is used to manage timing without blocking in several things at a time