Why don't you buy one of these, and save yourself a shitload of hassle ? http://www.seeedstudio.com/wiki/Electronic_Brick_-_OLED_96*16_Display
Why not look in the datasheet ? As you can see, the pitch for the cable is 0.4mm, which means you won't readily find a connector. This cable is meant to be soldered directly to the board, like the seeed-board i linked to.
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