my own ft232rl circuit

my design is working but it doesnt upload everytime. first upload error second too and third success.

When I first started working with the bare FT232 I had this problem too...

Do you have a diode acros that resistor like current Uno's use (anode to reset, cathode to +5)

...but I've never seen the problem since I added a diode.

So hopefully that will fix your problem as well.