I guess I need to invest in a board for the mega... 
now i have soldered the missing IC the 74lvc245APW the connections are perfect its hard soldering a smd ic ^^
but it looks good but it still doesn't work i connected headers onto the double rail from the touchscreen straight into the mega i uploaden my programme still doesn't work maybe there's something with the library but i don't find wich thing of the library .. =(
the libr can be found at this link maybe you find it ? 
http://www.nuelectronics.com/download/projects/TFT_lib_v1.2.zip
kind regards
kjelle