Step 1: calm down and relax
Step 2: describe which OS you are using
Step 3: learn how to connect to an Arduino Board with avrdude (-t option)
Step 4: learn how to flash an Arduino Board
Step 5: learn how to connect to a naked chip
Step 6: learn how to flash a naked chip
Once you answer #2 we can figure out #3. Then we can progress. Skipping the intermediate steps is not recommended unless you already have sufficient experience.