i dont know what library to use
For what?
and i cant find how to designate the orange 3 pin output from the motor shield.
Are you referring to the official Arduino Motor Shield? If so, there are two orange blocks. The pins on those blocks are connected to digital pins 5 and 6, as noted just below the blocks.
Unless i am stupid or blind and i cant find what i am looking for.
I'll assume that you are not, but, you haven't said what you are looking for, so I can't help you find it.
Also i am not code savey i have barley touched programming.i am trying my best at learing the arduino code
The hardest part often is defining the requirements in such a way that they can be implemented in code. How difficult it is to implement the requirements is often less a matter of being good at programming as it is a matter of lousy/incomplete/conflicting requirements.
From what you have described so far, all I can tell is that you want to use the motor shield, and that you have 4 motors. For what isn't at all clear.