New to the game and already lost :D trying to figure out what i need to make car push button work like i want

My apology. That kills my suggestion.
Okey. The button gives a logic signal that You can pick up. Good. What do You know about the lamp part of the project? If it is connected to the cats ECU a possible conflict might be thinkable.

A second thought. This button looks like "spare". What does the manual say? Can it be configured to operate like the valve You want, and lighting up the button?