Please recommend a LCD

Two common techniques that do not appear to have been mentioned previously are:
(1) Traditional 'Serial' using Tx (and possibly Rx)
(2) Shift register

Obfuscate: To make so confused or opaque as to be difficult to perceive or understand.

Also: In case you don't already know this, any technique used to control a 16x2 device will also work with a 16x4 with no extra wires.

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