...in the US, it is likely that 1/2 of your house will be on 1 phase of the 220 and the other half on the other...
Well, there is no way (no way) that I am going to go mucking around inside the power mains breaker box, and it's not very likely that I am going to pay a licensed electrical contractor to hook up a bridge between the two phases. (That's what it would take to keep my insurance valid, or so I'm told.)
However, some time ago I decided to use X10 to connect to porch lights, motion sensors, wireless switches for floor lamps, 3-way stair lights, etc., all over the house.
Here's what I did: I bought two X10 wireless transceivers. (Hang around the X10 site until you see a special that you like. They have all kinds of specials all the time. I got two of these and some other stuff at a real discount rate.)
I plugged one wireless transceiver into an upstairs outlet and carried around an appliance module to various outlets in the house. I tried to active the appliance module with the Universal X10 Remote control (you can hear the relay click when it turns on or off). When I found an outlet (downstairs, as it happened) that wouldn't activate the appliance module, I figured that the phase it is opposite to the phase of the wireless transceiver. So---I put the second wireless transceiver in that outlet.
Now, I can plug in anything anywhere and it always activates from anywhere that I want it to. No, I don't use an Arduino controller, but if I did, I would connect the Arduino to one of the X10 serial interface modules.
I have an old "X10 Sparkplug" set of stuff with an RS-232 interface, and I found lots of information on the Web about how to talk to it from my Linux workstation. With my vast (almost three months now) experience playing with Arduino boards, I'm thinking that it wouldn't be too tough to make the Arduino talk to it (through the TTL to RS-232 interface that I built) if I really wanted to.
I didn't have to hire anyone to hook up anything. I can turn on the porch light from an X10 keyfob or from an interior wall switch. It is turned on automatically by a motion detector when it's dark but not during daytime (no programming required). Stuff like that.
I find the X10 system to be very reliable in my modest-sized house in a fairly dense neighborhood.
Do I have to say it? Well, I will: IWFMYMMV (It Works For Me; Your Mileage May Vary.)
Regards,
Dave