Wilfish:
To disable auto-reset, I have a 1µ capacitor between gnd and reset.
They may not be big enough. There are accounts that 10 uF (or bigger) are required.
But I'm using the ArduinoISP already present in the IDE.Where can I download the updated version of ArduinoISP?
https://github.com/arduino/Arduino/blob/master/build/shared/examples/ArduinoISP/ArduinoISP.ino
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