Okey, I am really pissed right now >:( >:( >:(
I fixed the issue, for this thing to work you need to connect DTR pin of the Mini USB ADapter via a 100nF capacitor to the RESET PIN of the chip,
BUT.... YOU HAVE TO CONNECT THE RX PIN OF THE ADAPTER TO RX PIN OF THE CHIP, AND THE TX PIN OF THE ADAPTER TO TX PIN OF THE CHIP...s o you can program it.
So that guy's standalone version review has a mistake, so fix it pls so there are no more headsmashings like mine.
(Dude you cannot imagine what a wishful thinking I have towards you :o)