Ok, I read RetroLefty's Reply#5 of this post:
http://forum.arduino.cc/index.php?topic=132107.0
The only part of that post I am referring to is the part about the bulb not lasting if you use PWM to switch the SSR. I think my description of the wiring procedure was clear so there's no need to talk about that. Maybe your idea about a LED bulb is the key to making it work with PWM switching the SSR.