Servo Motor and male connector problem

Hello! I have a arduino uno starter kit that I am trying to do all the projects. On project 5 I tryed to connect both ways of the female connectors to the male header to the bread board. The problem is that when I connect it like the illustration it just cant connect. I try both ways of the male connector but nothing... Can somebody help me?

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Okey... Insert the shorter end of the male header into the servo's female connector. Place the other end of the header on a hard surface and push down with a little bit of pressure. After a little bit of work, you should stop pushing when the servo end of the header can just stay inside the servo's connector. Then, you can insert the other end into the breadboard. Hardly clean, but it works.