It's only 14 hours since your original post, so it hasn't gone round the world yet. Any my experience on forums is that people are all busy with lots of stuff like family, hobbies and dare I say it, work. So you shouldn't assume that nobody can or will help you, just be patient 
And perhaps start with something simpler than Arduino comms over Ethernet.
Have you even looked though? I found this page (scroll down to where it says "Ethernet") which has lots of links, like this for example.