artisticforge:
I use very thin solder. The solder I use is perhaps the width of 2 human hairs.
The one I use is 0,8mm. I now browsed our local component store, and they stock 0,38mm. The thinnest I found online was 0,3mm. What is the size of the one you are using? Are you ordering it online?
When soldering perf board I use a fine point soldering tip.
I have this solder,
http://www.mpja.com/Mini-Solder-Station-ZD-99/productinfo/15860+TL/
it was recommended by somebody for this kind of work when I started few years ago. (Had a break after initial bad experiences of soldering.) It seems to have a 1/32" tip, which is 0,8mm. It seems this model does not have finer replacement tips available.
What would be fine point tip? It seems Weller has 0,25mm tips.
My soldering station has temperature control I can dial in the temperature.
Mine has temperature control too, but I find it difficult to find what would be the exact temperature I should use. Now it is set to approx 325'C. This seems high for me, but with lower it seems that the tin is not liquidifying.
Use the least amount of solder that you possibly can.
Here I guess some practice will help...
use solder flux when un soldering parts.
a good vacuum solder sucker is necessary
use solder wick if you do not have a solder sucker.
Flux I have not used, will have to look into that. I have both wick and a sucker. I don't know if my sucker is good or not. Here practice will probably also help. It seems that using the solder to liquidify and then using the sucker at the same time is not very easy to do. It seems I am missing hands. (Sure, I have helping hands. Maybe my real problem is working lights). Applies for wicking too.