Solenoid switched by optocoupler?

If its any help i wrote down some settings based on my 3mm nozzle being approx 2ft above water, flash delay 400, drop delay 79, size 20. Its doing my head in because every time i alter one it has an effect on another, change the drop size + or - milliseconds you then have to change the other 2, drop delay will affect flash delay time.
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