Okay here is the primary method that I have tried.
Green wire = MISO (Pin1 on programmer/Pin18 on 328) Red wire = VCC (Pin2 on programmer/Pin7/+5v on 328) Yellow wire = SCK (Pin3 on programmer/Pin19 on 328) White wire = MOSI (Pin4 on programmer/Pin17 on 328) Red wire = RESET (Pin5 on programmer/Pin1 on 328) Black wire = GND (Pin6 on programmer/Pin8/GND on 328) (Sorry only have 5 different color wires)
When I plug in my programmer the power LED comes on and LED on pin 13 blinks which is the program that I have loaded on one of the chips. I have tried a fresh never used 328-P as well and I get the same results. This is really frustrating I wired it one way which was completely wrong and my chip heated up a little bit but it still runs the blink sketch and can be written too so I think it is fine.
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