Trouble downloading to the board I built

I have built a PCB with an Arduino on it. I can program on an uno board and put the chip in and the code runs. Using an ftd232r as my programmer.

I have a 1k resistor pulled up to 5v on the reset line.

I'm using

rx -> tx

tx -> rx

+5v

Gnd

and DTR to pin 1

The program compiles and start to download but never finishes, hangs the port.

Any thoughts?

Also i have not tied AREF and AGND to anything, is this a problem?

Wire dtr and reset correctly

. Dtr to one side of a 0.1uf cap, and the other side of the cap to reset(pin 1) and 10k pull up resistor to vcc on reset.