mahnked:
Switching the TX and RX pins did not work. And thank you aarg as using the uno as isp programmer worked in loading a blink sketch to homemade board did work! And that will work for now!I would still like to get the adapter working since that would be easier in the future.
When you were first setting up your processor, did you upload a sketch through the ICSP connector after you burned the bootloader? That overwrites the bootloader so that you have to burn a fresh bootloader if you want to do serial uploads. That could be your problem.