Hmm actually I think it could be done easy with the Gobetwino after looking at it.
I already have the comp waking automatically when you walk into the room in particular though. I'll play with this software though, if I can work it around to do a hotkey for the keyboard that should be good.
On the note of can she use a computer, no, shes 96 years old and can't see well. Thats why I was setting it up so that shed have it running using her TV as the screen so she can see better. But I'm not dealing with trying to teach her to use a computer or an IPad (which she wouldn't be able to see well enough either, I've tried). Took me 6 months to get her able to use her cable box.
and after testing out the camera because I've been going over for months and setting up using her TV and a webcam (fairly high quality). All her relatives have the IPad which is fine, but this old lady wouldn't be able to deal with that.
But thx for the Gobetwino. I'm pretty sure that that'll let me do what I need without having to learn to program a computer (though I should probably do that sometime anyways).