XCTU + XBEE + Mega(1280) + SPARKFUN SHIELD W/Explorer.

but would like to have the xctu to recognize that i am no longer pressing the 'a' or the 'd' key.

Then, you should be asking over at digi.com, for them to revise the X-CTU program. Don't hold your breath.

You can write your own application that does something when you press, and when you release, a key.