Nick and Paul,
Darn, thought there was something that I was missing in my code here on my side. I guess the external keypad/joystick is the only way to go, unless there is an alternative program (maybe arduino processing)????.even then the keys press depress may not work either. Holding my breath is easy, i asked the right questions and you understood, for that gentlemen, I say send a huge thank you! Now that i am faced with using xbee on a bread board or perhaps soldering extra pins to the explorer for breadboard application, i would expect that there would be no additional parameters to be set since both xbee's are in sync with each other ""right?"" The most i could do now would be to use two arduino's one with shield, the other on the breadboard since i don't have two shields.""Right"".. No problem here 
, just another hill to climb and conquer.
I do have another question! I am thinking the joystick would be a nice touch but bulky to tote around. What would be my best option, a purchased Parallax 27800 2-Axis Joystick or hacking my own saitek usb joystick with rs232 breakout(shich i do have) from sparkfun? I am also thinking that i would need the rs232 for the explorer anyway since it is usb too... I do have roborealm software which does already use the saitek joystick but i am not sure how to get the xbee to send the commands using the roborealm. If anyone could "enlighten" me on using roborealm with xbee that would be soooo greatful. Any thoughts or what if's are greatly appreciated.
Thanks PualS and Nick Gammon,
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