GOOD NEWS 
, Got the xbee + XCTU + seeedstudio motor shield + Xbee shield with explorer to work. It controls two dc motors using XCTU. Yeah, the key release still doesn't work but i have added a stop key so if i want it to stop it will. I feel on cloud 8 right now, only 8 because i am trying another project to work with roborealm and i need VBscript experience. But, I set that aside to work on this remote controlled robot till I get a few answers. UMMM wondering if i should have kept the remote control and saved me a few bucks, but knowledge is priceless.... ]
For those who would like to see the code or the aka robot (very roughly built) just give a shout out.
And for those trying to get thier bees working, I bought them paired already
About the robot, simple two dc motors, goes forward, reverse, right, left. Can easily be adapted for servos too.(or at least I think)
Go Arduino