Hi @bitknitting. These custom board options menus have only been set up for specific boards of the ESP32 platform. The person in the video must have had a different board selected.
Try selecting Tools > Board > ESP32 Arduino > ESP32 Dev Module from the Arduino IDE menus.
Other than some boards having different flash sized than others, and some of the newer ones using a different microcontroller (ESP32-S2, ESP32-C3), I think the main reason there are different menus from one board to another is simply the matter of maintenance. The ESP32 platform authors have been very open to accepting submissions of additional boards configurations to their project, which has resulted in a huge number of boards. They probably don't have the time or motivation to add menus to all of them, especially if the creator of the board didn't even bother to do it.