I assume you have some reason for not using the digitalRead() and digitalWrite() functions.
To set a bit first read the register (using the proper built-in) then OR the bit you want set with the value you read and then write the register back. To clear a bit AND in the complement of the bit you want to clear.
Which must be an output pin to be seen, obvsly I hope.
You could go out and learn how to do it as @oldcurmudgeon says, it is worth knowing that kind of bit operating don't rely on some fancy functions that do the same thing.