The processor data sheet is your best and most reliable source of information. Also, check for a specific Application Note from the manufacturer covering oscillator crystal selection and PCB design considerations. AVR example
yes, you're right, I shouldn't have used the word "recommended" (removed from the original post now).
I was going off of an old Arduino Uno circuit diagram however that was using an 8U2 so I assume a Rev 2 board. On the Rev 3 board with the 16U2 that resistor isn't there any more.