cant find TFT library (yx32b),(SSD1289)

This tells you what all your pins are.
http://www.ebay.com/itm/3-2-TFT-320-x-240-LCD-Display-Module-with-Touch-Panel-PCB-Adapter-/271233625422

follow it.

i used that and still not working
pins in red are not connected

These are the pins on your screen, all you need to do is match them up.

25
TP_SO
Touch screen SPI data output
connects to SPI MISO, Pin 30
26
TP_IRQ
Touch screen interrupt
Low level while the touch screen detects pressing Pin 28 on Shield
27
TP_SI
Touch screen data input
connects to SPI MOSI, Pin 34 on Shield
28
TE
Dangling
Dangling
29
TP_SCK
Touch screen SPI clock
connects to SPI SCK, Pin 32
30
TE
Dangling
Dangling
31
TP_CS
Touch screen chip select
Low active, Pin 20

there is no place to connect them in the 32 pin
i tried to connect out to miso
in to mosi
clk to clk
and still nothing

yes i connected
mosi to mosi
miso to miso
clk to clk
and it didn't work
and after that i connected
mosi to TP_SI
miso to TP_SO
clk to TP_CLK and CLK
but nothing xD

I don't know what else to tell you other than to get a adapter shield made for your screen, instead of trying to wire it yourself.

thats what i'm going to do
hope my screen isn't damaged in the first place

Just for the case somebody read it in attempt to solve a problem with touchscreen:
check your 5V level.

Some USB ports have not enough power, and touch sensor seems too sensitive to low voltage.