This is a complicated project for someone who is "pretty new to it all". It's not going to be plug and play.
One of the skills you will learn as you go, is to break down a complex problem into smaller more manageable bits. You may not get the project completed by next Tuesday, but if you break it down, you will be able to demonstrate a good start and an understanding of what it will take to complete.
You have the advantage of using adafruit devices and there is pretty good documentation available through adafruit, on the web, and through searching this forum.
First, I would recommend learning how to read the current time from the chronodot and display it on the serial monitor.
Second, I would learn how to use one seven segment display and the associated library, and display the month and day on it.
Third, I would learn how to use three seven segment displays with 3 different i2c addresses which you will have to set on the backpack. Display the current time (month-day-year-hour-minute) on the three displays.
When get to this point, it will be a good accomplishment, and I'm sure you will have worked through several problems.
I think you have a choice of what to do next.
After you get the one line display completed, you could chose to tackle the SN74HC138N and figure out how to address the 9 displays. This is likely to be the most complex part of the project.
You can address up to 8 displays by just setting the i2c address jumpers similarly to what you did on the first three. So, you could add a second line (like destination time) without having to use the SN74HC138N. In fact, you could make a pretty cool interim project using only 8 displays.