ive removed the arduino entirely. as I dont seem to be able to get it to work with i was trying to just add each component one by one until i get a circuit that works.
that is the pins for the DFPlayer.
The only thing I can think is that i originally connected the DFPlayer to a 9v power supply.. so maybe ive just broken it
I do not know which player you have. Not put that into a schematic, there is no coloration between your two pictures.Since there is more then one player, post a link to the technical information on the one you have, same as or similar to does not count.
Measure that 5V. Those "all in one kit" breadboard power supplies have a high rate of failure, it seems. Mine did and I don't recall stressing it or anything.
I agree with @hallowed31. Check to see that your power supply is actually outputting 5V and that it is reaching your DF player.
Next I would suggest what @xfpd said. Verify that your SD card is formatted with FAT32, not ExFAT. Then connect a jumper wire to ground and use it to touch other pins to skip track or play/pause or whatever.
Also, just for a sanity check, try grounding both ground pins on the DFPlayer. From your diagram, it looks like you didn't ground pin 10.
You’re making it hard to help you! First, draw a schematic - a diagram showing exactly what device(s) you are using and the wires connecting each pin.
Then tell us if you have tested your Player module using the detailed advice already given. If that fails, as I too suspect, then replace it, carefully, with another, and test that.